Today I'm having a hard day. First off, my daughter hadn't been to her dads in a month. Each time she'd ask he'd say he's working and then say I'll have lunch with you at school or we'll go to the movies. He was seeing her at my house. This weekend she wanted to stay with me. We were going to a parade and have family in town. When I texted that he was at my door in half an hour. Pick up time is 6pm! He was there at 4:30. She was painting and not ready to leave. Then said well since dad is already here I'll go with him. He's coercing her saying I've got a present for you!
She comes back Sunday night with a new ipad mini. She's 6 years old. My daughter tells me how his wife moved in and my daughter doesn't have her bedroom or bed anymore. She was very upset about this! (this was why he wasn't allowing her over there)
Background on wife-This is the girl he was cheating on me with, knew he had a family didn't care. I ended things and kicked him out. Six months later they get married. No one ever told me but the new wife on Facebook decided to contact me with a wedding picture as her profile. Nice, right? They live together for a year then for the past year and a half they have not lived together.
My daughter was saying that all her sons stuff is in her room. His clothes, shoes and toys and he sleeps in her bed now and her dad had her sleep in the bed with him when she was over there. She said he got a new smart tv to put in that room that used to be hers, his wife has a new ipad mini, he bought her a car, they went to Puerto Rico.
All of this "stuff" is fine and dandy but he is $10K behind in child support! My heart really goes out to my daughter who now got booted from her room there.
I contacted my lawyer and its $200 to file a motion for enforcement on the child support. If he's found guilty then I'll get that reimbursed and he will have to pay the attorney fees. According to the visitation - I would like a suspension until he can get his act together. Well that is a modification and they haven't gotten back to me on how much that is going to cost yet.
Friday I've got to take my car to the shop for $340 worth of work. I just paid $499 for someone hitting me inthe parking garage at work. Insurance hasn't determined yet if its a hit and run then I'll get $250 back and then if its a person who I suspect and they can try to get it from thier insurance.
I'm jumping around but you know I'm sure he feels like #1 dad for giving that ipad mini and I'm sure alot of dads won't do that. But she could use some socks, underwear and night clothes. I clip coupons, everytime we go out to eat its a very cheap place like chic fil a, mcdonalds, chinese. We get water! I never fill the buggy up to the top at the grocery store. I don't do these things! I don't get my kids the latest gadget. I am very frugal. I'm getting mad at the fact that I have to always following through and take the higher road.
Everything for me is like ..money here, money there. Constantly looking at my spreadsheet.
I got so frustrated today ...I went and saw a counselor!
I am tired of having to take him to court. He made over $400K last year! Really?
I think tonight I am going to take a nice hot bath read my book and call it a day.
Sorry for venting. I'm probably just really tired!
Having a rough time
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Do what you can, stay calm, and keep your chin up. It WILL get better.
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